Holiday Stress Creates Turkey and Stressing
Holiday stress is what too many people experience during a time that could be so much better. Hopefully, gathering for the holidays is a wonderful, warm, and blessed time for your family. But for too many others, it is nothing but "turkey and stressing", because of unresolved family issues or simply different preferences.
For too many families, you can't talk about problems, because of the fear of creating more stress. Instead of wanting to be together and enjoy the time, you fear getting together.
When families get together, all of the family history arrives with each person. And, for many families - maybe yours - that's bad, since holiday stress adds to the package. It's really difficult for those families when unresolved problems are the giant "elephant in the room".
One of the 4 common relationship mistakes is "keep the past in the present" and that agitates and irritates family members creating "ME" flashing moments. Family members "walk on eggshells", afraid they may say the wrong thing which might "make someone mad". All of that just increases the stress of being together.
"Turkey and stressing" anyone?
Be A Catalyst for Good
Leadership and relationships work BEST when people resolve issues rather than let them fester into painful sores.
Consider this, if issues aren't resolved from both sides, resolve it from your side. Move away from holiday stress even if the rest of the family doesn't.
How? Be a catalyst for change. A "catalyst" is...
an agent that speeds up change and does not get conformed or changed in the process.
Note the two parts of that definition 1) speeds up change, 2) not conformed or changed.
Jesus Christ is the ultimate catalyst. When He was in a situation, people either changed positively or became sad or mad at Him. But, in no case did the situation ever change Jesus.
Look at every conversation or interaction He had with people. His values did not change, even when that was His desire and was best for them. And, He NEVER made anyone change! He only shared the truth in love and gave them the opportunity to choose to change.
And, He did not pout or get mad when someone ignored what He said.
It Starts With You!
If you want to be