In other blogs, you have seen the five most important actions to aid or increase self-control or self-governance. Please remember that the most important one is Pre-decide what you will do when faced with a specific problem or temptation.Below are five additional actions to increase self-control and support a self-governing lifestyle.Use Self-control WiselyRemember, self-governance (self-control or willpower) is a finite ...
Actions are often easier for you to change than an attitude or feeling, because it is something tangible. And, when you change actions, you influence your feelings. Finally, if you maintain your thinking about an action and take the action consistently, in spite of your feelings, then your feelings will eventually respond to your changed thinking and actions. When you ...
Your emotions are not very reliable. If you want to see life more through the lens of reality, then consider two important details about your emotions. This will help you remove some of your speculation or opinion. Suppose You Watch a Scary Movie Do you have a favorite scary movie? Maybe the classic movie Psycho? Mine is the original Alien and even ...
Freedom that does not respect boundaries is IRRESPONSIBLE. When you cross boundaries, then laws, justice, and authority enter the picture.Freedom that doesn't respect boundaries is not only irresponsible, it is self-absorbed. That attitude says, "I can do anything I want because I can!"Freedom and Valuing OthersValuing others is like love, at least the way we define love. Our definition of ...
Do the people around you consider you a control person? The problem with control people is they fear that bad things will happen to the people around them, especially those closest to them. So, they try to control almost everything to prevent those bad things from happening.That isn't fun for them or the people around them.But, can control people change?Yes! ...
One of the best ways to be an individual with a lot of self-control is to learn how to NOT use it. That doesn't sound right does it? In the book Willpower by Roy Baumeister, he posed this great theory based on his research. Self-control (willpower, self-governance) is a finite energy that everyone has. Since it is finite, you tend ...
Self-control or self-governance is a great predictor of achievement. It also helps keep you from what is bad for you and your life. If you are interested in self-governance, read Willpower by Roy Baumeister, who has researched self-control. Since self-governance is vital for individuals in every organization, knowing how to develop more makes sense. So, let me help you. Below are ...
When you accept the reality of freedom, you experience a profound change for the better in all of your relationships. Freedom is critical for leadership and any other relationship, so here is a simple tool. Change your the words you are saying or thinking about the person. Your new freedom starts when you pay attention to how often you use ...
Is it too simplistic to say that 3 common problems prevent you from getting things done? I don't think so. I believe it is reality. In my life and in the years of working with people and companies, these 3 common problems show up every time! Yes, there are more problems than just these 3, but these 3 capture the ...
There is a big difference when you feel an obligation or "have to" compared to a "want to." What happens to you when you sense that you "have to" do something? Think about that Saturday when you get to do whatever you want. Now think about how easy it is to get out of bed!But, on those days that you ...