Actions are often easier for you to change than an attitude or feeling, because it is something tangible. And, when you change actions, you influence your feelings. Finally, if you maintain your thinking about an action and take the action consistently, in spite of your feelings, then your feelings will eventually respond to your changed thinking and actions.When you change ...
Your emotions are not very reliable. If you want to see life through the lens of reality, consider two essential details about your emotions. This will help you remove some of your speculation or opinion.Suppose You Watch a Scary MovieDo you have a favorite scary movie? Maybe the classic film Psycho? Mine is the original Alien, and even though it is my ...
Freedom that does not respect boundaries is IRRESPONSIBLE. When you cross boundaries, then laws, justice, and authority enter the picture.Freedom that doesn't respect boundaries is not only irresponsible, it is self-absorbed. That attitude says, "I can do anything I want because I can!"Freedom and Valuing OthersValuing others is like love, at least the way we define love. Our definition of ...
Do the people around you consider you a control person? The problem with control people is they fear that bad things will happen to the people around them, especially those closest to them. So, they try to control almost everything to prevent those bad things from happening.That isn't fun for them or the people around them.But, can control people change?Yes! ...
One of the best ways you increase your self-control is to learn how NOT to use it. That doesn't sound right.In the book Willpower by Roy Baumeister, he poses the following theory based on his research. Self-control (willpower, self-governance) is a finite energy that everyone has. Since it is finite, you use it in some areas of your life, not ...
Self-control or self-governance is a great predictor of achievement. It also helps keep you from what is bad for you and your life. If you are interested in self-governance, read Willpower by Roy Baumeister, who has researched self-control.Since self-governance is vital for individuals in every organization, knowing how to develop more makes sense. So, let me help you. Below are 4 ...
When you accept the reality of freedom, you experience a profound change for the better in your relationships. Freedom is critical for leadership and any other relationship, so here is a simple tool.Change the words you are saying or thinking about the person.Your new freedom starts when you pay attention to how often you use "should, ought, and must" or ...
Is it too simplistic to say that 3 common problems prevent you from getting things done? I don't think so. I believe it is accurate because it is true in my life more often than I want to think.In my years of working with people and companies, these 3 common problems always appear! Yes, there are more problems than just ...
There is a big difference when you feel an obligation or "have to" compared to a "want to." What happens to you when you sense that you "have to" do something? Think about that Saturday when you get to do whatever you want. Now think about how easy it is to get out of bed!But, on those days that you ...
What would you say is the biggest mistake in goal setting? Would you say it is a goal that is not specific or has no clear metric? Maybe it is when a goal is focused on actions instead of a clear end result.Those are problems, but they aren't the biggest goal-setting mistake. And, by the way, the same is true ...