Do the people around you consider you a control person? The problem with control people is they fear that bad things will happen to the people around them, especially those closest to them. So, they try to control almost everything to prevent those bad things from happening.That isn't fun for them or the people around them.But, can control people change?Yes! ...
One of the best ways you increase your self-control is to learn how NOT to use it. That doesn't sound right.In the book Willpower by Roy Baumeister, he poses the following theory based on his research. Self-control (willpower, self-governance) is a finite energy that everyone has. Since it is finite, you use it in some areas of your life, not ...
Self-control or self-governance is a great predictor of achievement. It also helps keep you from what is bad for you and your life. If you are interested in self-governance, read Willpower by Roy Baumeister, who has researched self-control.Since self-governance is vital for individuals in every organization, knowing how to develop more makes sense. So, let me help you. Below are 4 ...
When you accept the reality of freedom, you experience a profound change for the better in your relationships. Freedom is critical for leadership and any other relationship, so here is a simple tool.Change the words you are saying or thinking about the person.Your new freedom starts when you pay attention to how often you use "should, ought, and must" or ...
Is it too simplistic to say that 3 common problems prevent you from getting things done? I don't think so. I believe it is reality. It is accurate for my life more often than I want to believe.In my years of working with people and companies, these 3 common problems always appear! Yes, there are more problems than just these ...
A vast difference exists between feeling obligation or "have to" versus "want to." What happens when you think you "have to" do something? Think about that Saturday when you get to do whatever you want. Now think about how easy it is to get out of bed!But, on those days that you "have to" do those awful chores, those menial ...
What would you say is the biggest mistake in goal setting? Would you say it is a goal that is not specific or has no clear metric? Maybe it is when a goal is focused on actions instead of a clear end result.Those are problems, but they aren't the biggest goal-setting mistake. And, by the way, the same is true ...
Freedom and choice are essential to being a great leader, but the common leadership approach uses control through manipulation or domination.Imagine a large dog trotting eagerly toward the house. He has been out chasing rabbits, and has worked up quite an appetite. As he approaches the porch where his food bowl sits, he slows to a halt. A black-and-white-striped creature ...
If you fear conflict, it is most likely because you have a wrong view of it. Most people fear conflict and see it as something they have no desire to participate in. And, the conflict cycle creates much of the dread and negative emotions. Without good skills and a proper view of conflict, it turns into a joy robbing, repeating ...
Coaching others to excellence has four secret ingredients - MOT (Moment of Truth), THP (There, Here, Path), ALA (Act, Learn, Adjust), and Persist. Moment of Truth (MOT) uses the structure of the other three. MOT encourages performance excellence, and you dramatically enhance your ability to lead and coach when you use MOT. And one of the most overlooked elements is preparing ...