Key Lesson: When control (manipulation or domination) is in a relationship, at some point, the relationship will become intolerable.
- Memorize the proposed definition of freedom.
- What makes freedom a “radically different” way to live?
- How would you describe what Responsible Freedom is? Irresponsible Freedom?
- How would you explain an “Internal” and “External” view of freedom? (not the short version)
- Freedom is based on what model? Explain the model clearly.
- Memorize and explain the quote that starts with “When control….”
- In the previous quote, which party in the relationship will find the relationship intolerable? Explain.
- What makes control a problem for everyone? What is the desired result for people that try to control others?
- What three words are helpful to identify when you are trying to control?
- What does control encourage in the person being controlled?
- What is the difference in your energy when you “have to” versus when you “want to?” What example can you use to help someone understand the difference, even feel it?
- When you “have to,” what fiction do you believe? Explain it.
- What does this mean, “A good person up to no good?”
- Why does a “good person” feel they are not understood?
- Memorize and explain, “Imaginary fears refuse to use MAY for unknown outcomes.”
- Memorize and quote what the acronym “FEAR” means.
- What is the benefit of remembering change is their responsibility? What is your responsibility?
- Explain the control boomerang.
- Is this phrase correct? “I decided to give them freedom.” Explain.
- How does changing your words from “should, ought, or must” help you?
- Explain Primary and Secondary Choices.
- What one crucial value helps you use your freedom responsibly?
- What happens to your freedom when you put it underneath love?
- Explain how to use a “Truth Table.”
- Use a truth table for a husband that says, “She should respect me because I am showing love to her!”
- If someone asks this question, “What if they never change?” What would you say to them?