How do you reinforce good thinking and do what is right? Or, how can you do what is right when the temptation is strong to do wrong? Too often, the path of least resistance is toward wrong, so you need a way to do what fits your good values.
However, the problem gets worse when you are in a situation where you do not have time to think about good values and weigh your options.
Unfortunately, the path of least resistance is to react and respond in those situations. And your reaction may be much worse than you think. What you think you value can easily be pushed aside depending on the temptation at hand. For example, research shows that men who select good values toward women and then look at pornographic images of women will then select lower, even illegal, actions toward women as they view those images.
Those situations tell you whether your values are real or synthetic - part of who you are rather than just part of your speech. Difficult situations show your character and real values. Actions show character, not words.
One of the best ways to reinforce good thinking and be self-governing is to learn how NOT to use your self-governance. That sounds ridiculous, but read this and get more information. Self-control or self-governance is a finite resource, so use it wisely.
You are less in control of your life than you think you are. You may also think you can dabble in questionable things, and it will not hurt you. Most people believe that lie, which obviously does not reinforce good thinking.
How many men and women nowadays believe that a bit of porn will not hurt them? It is an epidemic in the world now. How about drugs and alcohol? People who are now addicted did not say, "I want to be addicted to drugs, so let me find some!" They believed some lie that said, "It won't happen to me. I want to feel different than I do right now."
Or a little lie about where you were or what you did.
So, how can you reinforce good thinking and sound values in those tough times? Well, wrong choices have a better chance of not happening if you learn to pre-decide. When pre-deciding, you stay away from the edge so you do not slide down the slippery slope.
Take a moment for self-examination. Identify the temptations or situations that challenge you the most. Instead of trying to handle everything, focus on those issues that often trip you up. Reflect, study wisdom related to those situations, and then decide NOW what you will do when those situations arise in the future.
Immerse yourself into good thinking; meditate on the best way to live. Meditating on the simplicity of great values in your life is preferable, like love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control.
And the simplest of all – would God say your pre-decided action is correct? That statement lived out, is an excellent foundation for good actions.
Also, reinforce good thinking when you decide what is right, not just against something wrong. Identifying something to remove from your life naturally creates rebellion because you will see that as removing your current freedom. While stopping bad habits and wrong thinking is necessary, find ways to start living differently, focusing on adding the good values and those things that are pure, just, lovely, and true into your life.
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