Ask people what they think is the most powerful leadership skill, and few will list our GR8 Leaders program's beliefs. Most people and leadership trainers would list this critical skill as something other than critical.
In the material that I have researched and studied, people believe that the most powerful skills relate to motivating people to action, such as persuasion or casting a vision. While those are valuable skills, the most powerful skill is...
ASKING QUESTIONS.
Unfortunately, that may sound strange, even crazy, but here are three reasons why Asking Questions is the most powerful leadership and relationship skill.
When someone asks you a question, what happens? I just did it to you. But, it has less impact in written form than in personal communication, although it still works.
What happened in your mind? The question encourages you to read further to see the answer, right?
Why? Your mind wants to know things - it is the way God made it. So, someone asks you a question; your mind engages in pursuing the answer. It happens even when the topic is not all that important to you. Of course, being interested in the topic helps, but the question alone can engage the mind.
Without a doubt, making a statement engages a person's mind to a degree, but it highly depends on the topic and the speaker's skill. Yes, questions require skill also, but the query does most of the work to help your information or insights grab a person’s attention.
Why not try it and see what happens? Instead of depending on your oratory skills or persuasiveness, practice asking questions. When you work on asking relevant, simple, and essential questions, you experience the power of questions, and you may even come to believe it is the most powerful leadership skill.
Additionally, because your mind wants to know the answer, you can use questions to energize your growth and the growth of those around you. So, when you begin to use questions, you increase or aid your curiosity.
But, one of the biggest obstacles to asking questions is you assume you already know something. It is easy to speculate, assume, or opine about an issue or a person's actions rather than ask questions to discover facts. In those times, you won't use the most powerful leadership skill. Instead, you rely on your ability to speculate or try to read a person's mind.
This is the most valuable element of why asking questions is the most powerful leadership skill. To persuade, it is highly beneficial to understand how people think. For example, do you know what they want? Do you have insight into how they look at the problem, solution, or next action?
When you ask questions, you get that additional benefit. That is especially true when you use Observational Listening. What is that? It is a skill where you turn a conversation into a mental video. Yes, people can lie to you, but if you ask good questions and picture what people say, it becomes rather evident that something does not "add up."
And, when you ask questions, always check your question with the Ultimate Question. Sometimes the question you ask could be better. Fortunately, it is easy to tell most of the time because the person is having a difficult time with it. That means you need to ask yourself...
"What's a better question to ask?"
When you develop listening and asking questions skills, you develop some effective yet highly underrated skills. Try asking questions to see if you agree that it is the most powerful leadership skill. Or, just let me know what you think is more powerful.
As a starter kit, try some of the following question templates
I hope those help you use questions more often!
Tags
leadership skills, listening and asking questions, powerful leadership skill, questions
If you desire to lead, you must have six critical leadership values. You can only be a great leader if you have great values. Unfortunately, great values are highly underrated. But those values make the difference between being a GOOD or BAD leader. As a leader, when you subject your leadership to the six critical leader
Read MoreAre you focused on job satisfaction or typical human resource items? If you want employee satisfaction, focus on 6 work-enriching principles. Why is so much time spent on things that will not increase job satisfaction? Because it takes time and energy to focus on items that really do impact job satisfaction. The 6 work enriching principles
Read More