Key Lesson: When control (manipulation or domination) is present in a relationship, it will, at some point, become intolerable.
- Memorize the proposed definition of freedom.
- What makes freedom a “radically different” way to live?
- How would you describe what Responsible Freedom is? Irresponsible Freedom?
- Explain an “Internal” and “External” view of freedom. (not the short version)
- Freedom is based on what model? Explain the model clearly.
- Memorize and explain the quote that starts with “When control….”
- In the previous quote, which party will find the relationship intolerable? Explain.
- Why is control a problem for everyone?
- Name the three words to identify when you are trying to control.
- How will a person typically respond when being controlled?
- What is the difference in your energy when you “have to” versus when you “want to?” Use a personal example to explain the difference.
- When you “have to,” what fiction do you believe? Explain it.
- What does this mean, “A good person up to no good?”
- Why does a “good person” feel they are not understood?
- Memorize and explain, “Imaginary fears refuse to use MAY for unknown outcomes.”
- Memorize the acronym “FEAR” and explain what it means.
- How would you benefit by remembering change is their responsibility? What is your responsibility?
- Explain the control boomerang.
- Is this phrase correct? “I decided to give them freedom.” Explain.
- How does changing your words from “should, ought, or must” help you?
- Explain Primary and Secondary Choices.
- What one crucial value helps you use your freedom responsibly?
- What happens to your freedom when you put it underneath love?
- Use a truth table. A husband says, “She should respect me because I am showing love to her!”
- If someone asks, “What if they never change?” What would you say to them?
